When Did We Accept That It Was OK To Be So Hard On Ourselves?

When Did We Accept That It Was OK To Be So Hard On Ourselves?

I absolutely love the New Year because it feels like a fresh start, a clean slate, and a world of potential and opportunity. Why is that wonder so quickly stomped on by our fear of not living up to our own expectations?

Do you ever make New Year’s resolutions or goals and find yourself getting overwhelmed, stressed out or frustrated instead of inspired, motivated and energized? Why do you think that is?

Is it the pressure we put on ourselves to not mess up or get off track because then we will feel like we failed? Where did that pressure come from and when did it begin?

When did we accept that it was ok to be so hard on ourselves that we don’t even begin to try?


One of my favorite things about SBF is our community on Facebook. We have a group for active SBF’ers where members encourage, inspire, share stories, defeats and build relationships. It is a support system of women from all over the world that are standing up against the lies that we are fed every single day and reminding each other why it is we choose to be healthy and strive to be the best versions of ourselves. These are women that are helping each other answer the questions above, and pushing each other to kick fear in the face and hold onto the value and worth that is not found in our appearance, our number on a scale, or the number of birthdays we’ve celebrated.

Last week one of the members shared these words along with a great tool that she found and I was compelled to share it:


“I usually don’t make resolutions, as I usually only stick to them for a week. Something always changes, or I go back to the way I was last year. Resolutions end up being more stressful than helpful. 

It’s late in January, but I’m starting a plan. It’s not a new goal; it’s been around for a while, but now I’ve decided to have a plan to chase it. 

Goal: be fit, for life. 

It’s a goal that’ll last forever. 

I’ve been doing SBF for a few years now, but I want to give myself more structure and make it a habit. 3 days a week at least, no excuses. 

Someone once told me that too many people treat exercise like something extra, something they COULD do. But not enough people treat it like a necessity, such like food. Something they NEED to do. That really made me think. 

So here’s my habit book! I found it in Target. It’s a great little accountability hard-bound book with awesome quotes on each page. On my days off, I am going to choose SBF workouts, run, and record it all in this book. Plus, before I start exercising, I’m to sit down, relax, and do my devotions. I need to learn to take it slow and not rush to fit things in. I keep over-scheduling myself on my days off. That needs to stop! 


So here goes. It’s late in the day already but I am about to log into SBF and choose some videos. And it will all go in this book.

Happy SBF’ing, ladies!”    -Deborah S.

Thank you so much for sharing this Deborah! It encouraged me so much to see that you are intentionally creating a plan and implementing tools to help you stick to it!

3 Most Important Things To Remember

  1. You are strong and capable of more than you will ever understand. Tell someone else that today.
  2. Give yourself grace.
  3. When you are feeling discouraged sit down and journal things you are grateful for. Just start writing.


Ok, now it’s time for a sweepstakes #giveaway! I loved Deborah’s habit book so much that I tracked a couple down and will be sending two of you a book with a personal message from me!

Enter to WIN by COMMENTING below with your thoughts and SHARE this blog post of Facebook. 

xoxo Suzanne

P.S. If you don’t WIN you can find this journal at Target.

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